Have you ever wondered what to say to those individuals you come across every now and then who ask your opinion on how they can “Find themselves!”
I mean, come on, who are we to ask that question of. Most of us when we retire lose our identity within 24 hours of being retired. Besides that, being of the age I am at the present time – not only has my identity been lost for 22 plus years now, most recently I lost my house key ….. (not really, I just forgot to put it in my pants pocket before leaving the house). Fact is that the car key was on the same ring as the house key so I couldn’t even get in the car to go anyplace….but I digress!
I cannot even remember who I might have identified myself with back when we first got married. Ozzie and Harriet – not really! Were I a bit bigger both in height and width, perhaps I could associate myself with Ralph Kramden of The Honeymooners but then I truthfully cannot see myself saying to Dolly (my wife – given name Gladys) – “You’re going to the moon!” Dolly! Although truth be told, I think Dolly would have no problem repeating the lines Alice used to say to Ralph when she said: “Ahhh, shaddap!” And for those of you reading this that know us, can you really imagine me saying to Dolly: “One of these days, POW!!! Right in the kisser!” “BANG, ZOOM!” Nope, after 55 plus years of marriage and three children later, my standards would be more like picturing myself as Dagwood of Blondie and Dagwood!
Thinking back to my working years, I cannot truly remember ever attending an event associated with my work where someone would come up to us and say to Dolly: “Oh, you’re Irwin’s wife.” But, I can remember an occasion where I attended one of her school events (she worked for the school board and a truly emancipated woman) where when I entered the room, her boss looked at me, shook my hand saying: “Oh, you’re Mr. Gladys” For that evening I was ‘Mr. Gladys’. For the longest time after that, every now and then when I was sort of discombobulated, I found myself whispering silently: “I need to find myself!”