What is it about retirement that bothers us the most? Is it that we feel useless, bored, or that life and ourselves have become mundane? You know the days I am talking about. Those days where we say to ourselves: “Why bother getting out of bed – it is just going to be another day like yesterday!”

Why did I pick those three words to start this article? Let’s take a minute to look at the definition of those words.

Useless – Not fulfilling or not expected to achieve the intended purpose or desired outcome.

Bored or boring – Not interesting, tedious.

Mundane – Lacking interest or excitement; dull.

Now let’s take a look at the word retire – Retire – meaning having left one’s job and ceased to work.

Work – activity involving mental or physical effort done in order to achieve a purpose or result. Prior to retiring – work usually meant that activity necessary to put food on the table and a roof over one’s head. Another word for work is employment.

Employment – the condition of having paid work; a person’s trade or profession; the action of giving work to someone.

If you will notice, both words – work and employment refer to activity one had to do. Retire or retirement is usually the time of our lives where we no longer have a job to go to and our time is now truly “our time!”

Unless we worked at a job we truly loved and enjoyed, chances are work was not truly fun. It was as the saying goes: “A means to an end.” According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary – the definition of “a means to an end” is ‘something done only to produce a desired result.’ Hence my reference above when I talked about putting food on the table and a roof over one’s head.

Now that we are retired though and going on the assumption that we have adequate income to still address the needs for food and shelter, the time once given to work should be given to ourselves. How else can we avoid boredom or the feeling of being useless?

I say this because even being as active as we try to be, there are days that I do feel useless, well, not so much useless as “Gee, isn’t there more than this?” But, then I also say to myself: “What is this? You are the one just sitting here looking at old “Murder She Wrote” reruns!”

Bottom line is that to enjoy our retired lives, we need to stay active. Read a book, put a puzzle together, go for a walk, visit the zoo, grab a cup of coffee with a friend, learn a new language, anything to keep both body and mind active. A busy person does not have time to sit and ask the question: “Is this all there is?” They are too busy living life and as a result, enjoying retirement.

Until next time!

2 thoughts on “Is This All There Is?

  1. Last evening as I was sitting outside with my husband having a glass of wine before dinner, I made the comment that one day I would love to just spend an afternoon outside on the deck doing nothing more than reading a book.
    He laughed and said I could do that any time I wanted … if I just stopped moving long enough 😏

    The beauty of retirement is that we can make it anything we want – assuming we have the health and reasonable resources. My next door neighbour is also retired and she complains EVERY DAY about how bored she is. I just don’t understand it. This is something she can control and she chooses to do nothing.

  2. I have come to believe, leaving the work place is more of a shift in mind-set than anything else.
    No longer are we ‘enslaved’ to ‘work for our life’ and we often find it difficult to ‘step out of ‘ that mind-set and into one of self-love, indulgence/freedom/abundance.

    I left the ‘work force’ in 2010. I refuse to be called ‘retired’. Why? Because who wants to be ‘tired’ over and over again?
    I believe that everything in life is a matter of choice. I choose to do what brings me joy.

    Like Joanne Sisco commented about the bored neighbor, “…she chooses to do nothing.”
    And, just as Joanne herself chooses not to, “…spend an afternoon outside on the deck doing nothing more than reading a book.” Her husband even made the comment of it being her ‘choice’ to not slow down.
    Another great post! Thank you!
    And I ‘liked’ your comment, Joanne…… thank you

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