What does this Buddhist teaching tell us – that all of life is in a constant state of change – something I have been writing about for quite some time now. We all know – just as in our daily days which have a beginning and an ending – everything has a beginning and everything has an end, Think about it! Where do trees come from – they start with a seed and eventually become a tree subsequently dying and transforming back into earth.
Let’s venture out west to a place like the Grand Canyon – just as in the above example about trees – every rock formed in the Grand Canyon will eventually vanish – what will take its place is anyone’s guess but the fact is – there will be change. Does our air conditioner last forever? What about our cars? No, eventually everything will wear out and fade away. As is the case with the human body, we are born and subsequently we die.
What does this teaching tell us – well, one thing that could be learned and I guess the most important lesson is that expecting something to break (even if we wish it wouldn’t and could go on forever) enables us to deal with the loss when and if it does happen. Hopefully we will look at the change as something that was expected but also that we thoroughly enjoyed the item while we had it. Remember, enjoy what you have now in the moment and do not think about what you could have had.
Such an experience was had recently. We had to remove items from the top of our cabinets so that the vibration from having a new roof put on our house would not cause them to fall accidentally. While removing the items, we decided to wash them as they had been atop of the cabinets for a rather long time. Upon placing them back in their original positions atop of the cabinets after they were clean and the roof was done, a favorite “baby” dish was broken. While we saved the pieces with the hope of gluing it back together, I am trying to maintain that while it served its purpose, it lasted fifty-two years and as everything on this earth does, its time had run its course. Nothing lasts forever.
Did I want the dish to break – no. But, the reality of the situation is that one learns to make peace with the way things are. Instead of getting angry and saying or doing things one may regret – another way of handling the situation is to say: And there it goes! One might even add a touch of levity to the situation by saying “And another one bites the dust!” The whole purpose behind this philosophy though is to keep one’s cool allowing us to appreciate life as never before.
One day at a time – one day at a time!
What is it about reaching a certain age and the need to worry about what it is we are going to eat? My personal opinion is we stay away from or only eat in moderation those foods we know can mess with our metabolism and make it a point to eat at regularly scheduled times. The schedule that seems to work well for us is to eat at 7, 11:30 or 12:00 and then around 5 or 5:30 with possibly a snack in between to carry us through.
Now when I say snack though I am talking about a healthy snack – such as a half of a banana and in some instances some peanut butter to go with as our morning snack. The afternoon snack – well that changes from time to time and can range from some trail mix to a piece of dark chocolate. And then there is the evening snack which is usually six ounces of yogurt.
My educated guess, knowing pretty much what we eat and when we eat it, is not the food we eat but is more with the fact that we do not exercise enough to burn off the unwanted calories that come with eating what we eat. Some might say – I cannot exercise – I don’t have the room. Poppycock! If you can walk – you can exercise. Take a walk around the block for ten or fifteen minutes every day. At least you are not being sedentary which is one of the things we should avoid.
Our biggest problem is when we are away on vacation and spending time with relatives especially if they are providing quarters for you to sleep, bathe, and so forth. But, then again – this is where good old Yankee Ingenuity comes into play. Here’s the thing, I constantly write that we are the masters of our own destiny. Just because a relative is putting you up doesn’t mean you give up daily exercising.
Take my stretching routine for instance. I only need a small space at the end of the bed I am sleeping in and I can do my fifteen minutes of stretching every morning when I wake. Now taking my fifteen or so minute walk every day – well – that is another story because one must also consider the environment around us. At present, we are in, as I like to put it, “the boonies” and we must be careful walking on the road in front of the house as it is a well-traveled road and some of the drivers do travel faster than the required speed limit.
But, I take into consideration the fact that I am not as active when visiting relatives as I am at home or on a two-week vacation staying at a time-share where we can be as active or inactive as we want to be. I compensate by watching what I eat and trying my best not to constantly sit around doing nothing. True, it isn’t the best way to stay in shape, but under the circumstances, it will have to do.
Until next time!
Do we ever truly know what it is that will make us happy. It seems as though the older I get, the less I know what I want to do when I grow up. Interesting dilemma, isn’t it? But then, looking at it another way, that is what makes each day I wake – interesting!
What fun is it in life to wake up doing the same thing day in and day out. We used to be told when we were kids, that variety is the spice of life. I guess that is why we have tried our best not to get into a “rut”, if you will, as to how each day will go.
True, there is our line dance practice and we know that is something we do on a regular basis, four days a week. But that is also our way of exercising to stay in good physical shape and so we do not consider that to be part of a rut. Staying physically fit allows us to continue doing things that just pop into our head on the spur of the moment.
I know that many people, when they reach our age, settle in and follow the same routine day in and day out and that is fine if that is what serves their purpose. But we wake up each morning saying to ourselves “What can we do that is interesting today.” It is that attitude that has carried us through seven plus decades and reminds me of an old adage I eluded to in a different post recently which stated:
”It ain’t over till (or until) the fat lady sings.”
If one will recall, this saying, according to Wikipedia, is a colloquialism which means that one should not presume to know the outcome of an event which is still in progress. More specifically, the phrase is used when a situation is (or appears to be) nearing its conclusion. It cautions against assuming that the current state of an event is irreversible and clearly determines how or when the event will end.
Having said that, today we will seek out new adventures. There is a gigantic “yard” sale going on in the neighborhood we are presently visiting and as such, we are going to see if another old adage is true. The one that says: “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure!” Wish us luck.
Until next time!