Relax, Think, and Reflect!


I got to thinking recently, at what point in our lives do we think we have all the answers? Then I said, self, we never have all the answers. Why? Because the day we think we have all the answers, well that is the day we may as well hang it up and just store the old boots under the bed or in the closet.

While we would like to think that we are set in our ways, fact is that becoming set in our ways is probably one of the worst things we can do as we age.

Think about it – as I may have mentioned in prior posts – in our lives, there is nothing as consistent as change. With that thought in mind, we have to keep all our options open which means we need to keep our life and thinking flexible.

We all know how things can change in – as I like to call it – “In a New York Minute. ”


Fact is, due to that we need to be ready to “rock and roll” as soon as anything different does happen. Why, because one should never get too comfortable in life. We need to be ever vigilant and know how to roll with the punches.

At one time in my life I had wanted to take up martial arts – not necessarily to become some “bad ass” type of individual but mainly because every person I knew that had mastered some form of martial arts had also mastered control of their lives as well. Think about it – individuals such as those familiar with martial arts moves, you know, moves like ducking and weaving or dodging and flowing – usually are quite in control when something unexpected happens.

And we all know, in life, we need to be flexible. By rolling with the punches as mentioned above, we will be able to see life in a different light. Life should not be looked upon as our enemy. Life is our friendly partner who shows us how to duck and weave or dodge and flow. By taking this approach, chances are we will have fun in the process versus taking a cold hard stand and drawing a line in the sand. My educated guess is that if we take this latter approach, the only thing we are going to learn is what it feels like to be knocked down a peg or two.

Over the years we have looked upon our lives and how we approach life as one gigantic adventure. Why else would we have moved a minimum of twenty-five times over the past fifty-three years. As a matter of fact, one such adventure had me quitting my job (after I had received the best salary increase ever in five years) to move clear across the United States (from Florida to Arizona) with a wife and two children on the assumption (there is that word “assume” again) I would land on my feet and get a satisfactory job (which fortunately I did). Did someone say “adventure!”

By taking the approach of “Why not do it?” just think of the experiences we can have. And at our age, how many wild and crazy ideas might we have in us yet. Whatever they are or may be, fact is that even if the thought of doing something different scares us – we should do it anyway. Think like a turtle. If we don’t like what we see when we do it, we can just crawl back into our shells as though nothing happened. Not too sure of this thought process but I don’t “not want” to be adventurous either.

Being the age we are though, one does have to be logical about this process. Some opportunities may just have to be passed up because, well, let’s face it, the smart person should know when to say yes and should be smart enough to know when to say ‘no’ as well. After all, we didn’t get to where we are today by making “dumb” decisions.

There comes a time we need to get out of our comfort zone and do different things. Besides doing something different is not only exciting but can also – believe it or not – improve our mental well-being. Take us for example, we have been in this same house now ten years – but we do not look at it as it being our last residence. We both have dreams of finding our Shangri-la. A place that has all the amenities we would like so that we can spend the last quarter of our lives listening to the waves at a beach or listening to the sound of the birds chirping, watching squirrels scamper across the lawn scavenging for nuts and/or seeds. All the while enjoying our cup of coffee while we take in how beautiful each morning is at this particular time of our lives.

What better time to sit back, relax, think, and reflect. Now that is retirement living.

Before I go though. let me just mention that I hadn’t planned on using this piece just now. Because we are going to begin yet another adventure shortly and as such, will probably have limited Internet service, I decided to share this post with you but also add one or two comments regarding what my future intentions are as it relates to this site. My goal is to use part of this time away to do two things:

  1. What some of you may not be aware of is that I post a daily quip to my Facebook account and as such I am of the opinion that my material is becoming stale and not as entertaining as I would like it to be. So , while away on this adventure, I hope to update my material making it more interesting and fun so that when I do return, individuals following my nonsense will like the turn of events and direction I will have chosen for future posts.

  2. In addition I intend to do my best to determine or shall I say finally choose “my niche” to write about here on Lakeland Musings by Irwin. By that I mean something that I am truly passionate about, want to write about, naturally with the ultimate goal that those of you following my blog will find it interesting as well and as such continue following my blog on a weekly basis.

So, wish me luck and as Arnold Schwarzenegger said in The Terminator,

“I’ll be back!”

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