Why are we still here?

Upon reading one of the many newsletters I subscribe to on a daily basis, I came across the following quote “The journey between what you once were and who you are now becoming is where the dance of life really takes place.” by author Barbara DeAngelis, Ph.D. The name rang a bell because many, many, years ago I remembered receiving a book as a gift entitled “Real Moments” by Barbara DeAngelis, Ph.D. It is a very interesting book that deals with how, at times we as people, may need what could be called – “Real Moments.”

Sure enough – upon searching my library, I found the book. After skimming the first few pages I remembered why I kept it all these years. I decided to keep it for future reference should I ever feel like I needed a “Real Moment!” Perusing the book, I came across a chapter written for Men and Real Moments. One passage in this chapter on Men and Real Moments states, and I quote Ms. DeAngelis when she says: Here is the thing about men and real moments:

Real moments are about being, they are not about doing. And men are doers.

However, before she ends the chapter on Men and Real Moments, Ms. DeAngelis provides the reader with a quote by W. Beran Wolfe that reads as follows:

“If you observe a really happy man you will find him building a boat, writing a symphony, educating his son, growing double dahlias in his garden, or looking for dinosaur eggs in the Gobi desert. He will not be searching for happiness as if it were a collar button that has rolled under the radiator. He will not be striving for it as a goal in itself. He will have become aware that he is happy in the course of living life twenty-four crowded hours of the day.”

With each passing year, I find myself asking myself the age old question: “Why am I still here and what is it that I should be doing with my life?

I am here to tell everyone that I am still alive and well and taking nourishment. The statement made by W. Beran Wolfe explains – leastways to me – but hopefully to anyone reading this post – why we are still here. It is because now that we are retired, we, in all probability, have no particular goals, especially the goal of happiness. Why, because as stated by Mr. Wolfe, it is at this stage of our lives that we should have finally become aware that just being in the course of living life twenty-four crowded hours of the day should be all that we need to be happy. Until next time


About iglengel

Welcome to my blog: I retired in September of 1996 after twenty-five years as an Underwriting Manager (and one year with a smaller insurance company) and have written blog postings on the website Retirement-online.com prior to setting up this Word Press free site. Having retired almost twenty years ago I have experienced my own retirement transition. I survived and you will too. Oddly enough, now that I have more time, I am discovering various things about myself that I would not have imagined myself doing in retirement. Why does it take so long for, we as individuals, to stop and think about ME!? Join me as I share with you some of the shenanigans we have been up to since retiring. Retirement is and can be a whole lot of fun. Welcome to my site – remember – retirement is not the destination we are seeking – it is the journey! I encourage you to visit often, provide comments, ask questions and add your own insights. We are all on this journey together.
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2 Responses to Why are we still here?

    • iglengel says:

      Thanks JoHanna. I am trying my best to get back in the habit of writing and my goal is to post something at least once a week on two of the blog sites I write at and once every month or so on the third site.

      I appreciate your following my ramblings.

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